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Consistency is Key


Friendship is a two-way street. It takes time, effort, and commitment to build and maintain strong friendships. One of the most important things you can do to build a friendship is to show up consistently.

What does it mean to show up consistently? It means being there for your friends when they need you, both emotionally and physically. It means making time for them, even when you're busy. It means being reliable and trustworthy.

When you show up consistently for your friends, you're sending them the message that you care about them and that you're there for them. This builds trust and intimacy, which are essential for strong friendships.

Of course, life happens and sometimes you won't be able to make it to a planned hangout. That's okay, as long as you communicate with your friend and let them know why you can't make it. But if you're constantly flaking out on your friends, they're eventually going to stop inviting you to things.

So, if you want to build strong friendships, make sure you're showing up consistently. Here are a few tips:


  • Make time for your friends. This means scheduling time in your calendar to hang out with them, even if it's just for a quick coffee or lunch.

  • Be reliable. If you say you're going to do something, do it. This shows your friends that you can be counted on.

  • Be there for your friends when they need you. This means being a shoulder to cry on, offering advice, or just listening to them vent.

  • Be honest with your friends. If you're not feeling up to hanging out, be honest with them about it.

Showing up consistently is one of the best things you can do to build strong friendships. Make sure you're making time for your friends, being reliable, and being there for them when they need you. Your friendships will be stronger for it.

Here are some additional tips for showing up consistently for your friends:

  • Be mindful of your words and actions. The way you talk to your friends and the way you treat them sends a message about how much you care. Make sure your words and actions are consistent with your desire to build strong friendships.

  • Be open and honest with your friends. Share your thoughts and feelings with them and be willing to listen to theirs. This will help you build trust and intimacy, which are essential for strong friendships.

  • Be forgiving. Everyone makes mistakes. If your friend lets you down, be willing to forgive them. This will help you maintain the friendship and keep it strong.

Building strong friendships takes time and effort, but it's worth it. By showing up consistently for your friends, you're investing in your relationships and creating a foundation for lasting friendship.

Hugs! Brenda



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